The ever-fleeting present

Even the moment you read this phrase is part of a lifetime that will never return. 

Remember this well.

Micro-moments of Joy

"Triggers" are widely understood, but few people know about their opposite: glimmers.

A glimmer is the exact opposite of a trigger. It's a kind of cue, either internal or external that brings one back to a sense of joy or safety. It can be anything from catching a view of the skyline of your favorite city, to seeing a picture of your pet.

The term glimmer was introduced in 2018 in the book The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation by licensed clinical social worker Deb Dana. It was popularized by a viral TikTok video in 2022 by psychologist Dr. Justine Grosso.

Put simply, glimmers are great for our mental health. On a bad day, or when we're moving through a more difficult chapter, glimmers can offer you a reset button. And from there, a healthier headspace gives you more energy and inspiration to do the things that might otherwise feel hard.

They're micro-moments that make us feel happier, hopeful, safe, and connected. And the best thing is, we can easily access them by looking for them.

Seek out more glimmers in your day for a happier, calmer, and more connected life.

Toe-curling mortification

Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you.

How many do you smoke? Well, at the moment I’m down to 2 lighters a day.

What is this thing you call substance abuse?
All I wanna do is forget and get loose.
Drinking and smoking over and over
What's so great about a life that's sober?

- Benjamin Alire Sáenz, Last Night I Sang to the Monster

Words, Beautiful Words

"Change breaks the brittle." – Jan Houtema

"Don't fear moving slowly. Fear standing still." – Chinese proverb

"However little television you watch, watch less." – David McCullough

"It's easier to win an argument with a genius than an idiot." – Gurwinder Bhogal

"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." – Annie Dillard

"Anybody who cares less about wanting to be cool, I think, is more interesting." – Aimee Mann

"We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all that we need to make us happy is something to be enthusiastic about." – Charles Kingsley